Praise paradox - reflection in spring

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Enlightening matters for upbringing: Don’t praise your low self-esteem child further into the cone of shame, wrote by one blogger of Wired.

According to Journal of Experimental Psychology there’s a big difference between person praise and process praise.
In order to pick a peck of proper parental praise, you can ponder this:
person praise reinforces a child’s self, focusing on how smart or strong or creative or funny or `good´ a child is. Process praise reinforces a child’s behavior, focusing on how hard the child tries or the mechanisms a child uses on the way to a goal.
It’s the difference between `you’re so smart´ and `wonderfull, I can tell you worked really hard´.

A first study of 357 children found that the lower a child’s self-esteem, the more the balance of praise tended to tip toward personal — intuitively, adults seem to want to bolster these children’s self-esteem and do so with encouraging words aimed at personal traits that seem lacking.
In fact, kids with low self-esteem got more than twice as much person praise than kids with high self-esteem — 30 percent and 14 percent of total praise, respectively. But then a second study of 313 children found that this personal praise predisposed children with low self-esteem to feel even more ashamed failure.

On the other hand very rewarding praise is an essential tool for indoctrination.

There are ... , if it's not, must be, somekind of common sense, balance and fairness.